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Reached Your Goal But Still Unhappy? Here's Why

Have you ever achieved a goal only to wake up the next day feeling... underwhelmed? 🙄 What gives? This psychological "phenomenon" has a name: the arrival fallacy. The arrival fallacy is an idea first coined by Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar in his book, Happier: Can You Learn to Be Happy? The arrival fallacy is the false belief that, once we achieve our goals, all of our problems, insecurities, unhappiness, etc. will be solved. We think that we will feel different than we do now, that there is somehow better than here. But that's not how it works. It's not achieving the goal that changes who we are and how we feel. It's in the process of working toward our goals that we change. As cliché as it sounds, it really is the journey that matters, not the destination. That means we must learn to enjoy the daily work and the process. Instead of looking ahead for what’s next (and thinking our happiness is on the other side), let’s choose to focus on the day to day and be grateful for the season we are in now and the work we are putting in today. Find joy and purpose in the now. Otherwise, the next will mean nothing.

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This is your reminder: $10 x 365 days = $3,650 15 minutes x 365 days = 91 hours 15 pages x 365 days = 5,475 pages 4 workouts x 52 weeks = 208 workouts "Little by little, a little becomes a lot." -Tanzanian proverb Enjoy the journey!

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